Compassion Over Competition

Hello Beloved tribe! I am feeling inspired after a weekend away in Astoria where not only did I get the opportunity to spend time with my Love but also attended a workshop on storytelling. That class and what happened during and after is a story for another time, and I want to encourage you if you haven’t already to visit my free gifts page to download a free guided meditation! 

This post goes out specifically to Julie Taylor who answered the call on what she wanted to see more of here from me. Her response was more talking to Jesus. It was a fantastic reminder for me to call on my Master teacher and ask for His wisdom and guidance. It just so happened I truly needed it last week.

We as women throughout time and history have sourced our power in ways that have not always been the most aligned, authentic, or grounded. Often times this was out of necessity in order to survive. Because we were not allowed to own property, vote, and were dependent on a man for most things in our lives, we did what we needed to do in order to have security which often included manipulation, coercion, sexual favors, and extreme competition with other women in order to keep or get a man. It is important to name this so we have an understanding of where we are now in this current culture. I would say that every single one of us women here have done any one of these things in our current lifetime whether consciously or unconsciously in order to get what we want. I know I have. And in naming this we can release the shame because it is only by bringing this to light can we truly move beyond it.

Whenever we find ourselves running up against another sister who we feel is not in alignment in her soul truth, we have a couple of different options in how to respond depending on the situation. Fighting fire with fire doesn’t do anyone any good. This will not shift us out of this old paradigm of competition and passive aggressive patterns. What will shift us is having an awareness around why many women still revert to these thousands of years’ ways of being – it’s in our DNA. If we ever were found not worthy in a tribe – be it the man no longer wanted us, we were seen as a burden, we were not easy to get along with – we could potentially get kicked out of that tribe which meant almost certain death. So our inherent survival meant that we needed to do whatever it took to keep the status quo and do whatever needed to be done in order to live. That can be a very difficult thing to overcome now if we do not bring in a new awareness.

There is a woman who is being a teacher to me right now as she is running these patterns of manipulation and control. I have been doing clearings in myself around her and what she has been sparking in me, and this is the path. It is not about blame but about radical responsibility and what this brings up for me personally. If I don’t choose to release in me now what this is triggering then another will show up for me to learn this. So better to meet this with courage and conviction because when I release and clear and bring in more light, not only does this clear for me, it also clears for her and all women. We are not here playing a small game. We are here to anchor in the Love, and we do this one step at a time.

So last week when I was in the depths of this going through the pain and emotions of this clearing, I began for a couple of days putting up a boundary with her in order to give myself enough space to do the work. I sent myself tremendous love and compassion and told myself “I love you’s.” Finally, when I had had enough of trying to control it, I surrendered into prayer and asked Jesus what I should do. His reply was quick – “Just love her.” I had finally come to the place within myself where I loved myself enough to let go of that boundary and embrace her with loving kindness. This is key – you need to give yourself the Love first and foremost and get right within you before you can attempt to give it to someone else. If I had jumped to just loving her without allowing myself to go through my process, this would never have worked. You always honor where you are and then only move into action when you are ready and able. Otherwise you will just be overgiving which is another pattern that women tend to run that also isn’t healthy.

I went a step further with this sister and asked my pod group (we meet almost every Friday) to place me and her in the sacred circle together and asked for a blessing of clearing and release. In asking for support with other sacred sisters, I was able to honor myself while also embracing another who has no idea that she is running these patterns of manipulation and control. She has had no one to model for her a different way of being. Although I am not here to necessarily be her teacher, I can energetically heal as much I can through this powerful group of women I engage with. And if this other sister can be affected by our Light, then I am grateful.

So thank you to Julie for reminding me that we can access the wisdom of the Divine whenever we need if we are open and willing to hear. In loving myself first, I can then love others in a way that can continue to move us in a direction that creates what we wish to see manifest here on Earth.

Share with me below what resonated with you in this post! And know, we are Love. xo