From Butterfly to Dragonfly

Hello beautiful Lights! Who is ready to put January in the ground and welcome February with open arms? These past couple of days have moved me into a deeper level of open heart, forgiveness and compassion. I am usually surprised when I am being pushed into something new, but I had a tremendous amount of support and love from my spirit tribe, friends and coach. So here we go – upleveling into more heart. Who knew?? :)

I met a lovely woman at a Chinese New Year party this past weekend who is fresh on the heels of divorce. Her husband just moved out the day before and she hasn’t had her first weekend alone without the kids. That is happening next weekend, and we talked about what she plans to do with that time. She mentioned that she was going to redesign her home to exactly how she wants it – lots of pink on the walls and spruce things up to how she wants her home to be. It is true that in relationship we compromise because we are working towards something together, and in that being together it is natural to pick one thing over another in order to make each other happy.

And when a relationship ends, you can often find yourself perhaps not knowing what YOU want anymore. You might have compromised yourself so much that it can take time to really come back to what truly makes you happy and filled with joy. There is also the dialogue that can be in your head as well that takes time to quiet down – “yes, I want pink on the walls but can I really do that? Should I really allow myself to go there?”

I encouraged this brave, courageous woman to do radical amounts of self-care and do all the things she loves to do and to allow herself to cry when the sadness comes and not run from the pain. She expressed how she can sense that all this change is pushing her into something new, something she can’t yet see for herself but knows that she is going to become stronger than before. I was radically honest with her. I told her it’s not going to be easy. There are going to be some dark times, lonely nights and unbearable sadness. But I also told her I am incredibly excited for her because she’s absolutely right about her being broken down to then rise into this new version of herself that is going to fly – if she so chooses. 

In transformation we talk about being the caterpillar that transforms into the butterfly, and she is in the stage of completely dissolving in the chrysalis. Then as we move forward on the journey, we find our truest selves and who we are at the deepest levels, and then we emerge as this magnificent butterfly with new wings and color. And each moment that we honor our truth is a marker that leads us to this transformation. So, lovely lady, paint those walls pink, buy some new accessories for your home, and in doing so you begin to reclaim you and the power of who you are.

She’s not quite ready for my coaching as she’s at the beginning stages of the journey. My area of expertise is to take you from the butterfly – the one that has emerged with her wings and new color but still may not be exactly where she wants to be in her life – to the level above the butterfly which is the dragonfly. You are through the deepest depths but you aren’t quite where you want to be. My guidance brings you dramatically farther in your life through the trauma, shame and judgment. And in that, you become a dragonfly which has double wings. And from here, you can soar into your life in ways you might not even be able to imagine for yourself. Yet.

If you ever want to experience what it would feel like to soar inside yourself into your joy, I invite you to book a call with me and let’s have a chat. It is an honor and privilege for me to take you there, and I can’t wait for you to know this freedom that awaits you just on the other side.

Until then, standing with you. xo